Wish I could read her mind (6)>>>>

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nds you are doing so well. It seems that your sitch has turned in the past few weeks as you've pointed out. I'm sure it's hard as things improve to be holding onto that one piece of 'evidence' that hasn't come yet. But think about this - if you were to get that piece of evidence and she actually said it to you, would that be enough? Sometimes we think something or some words will change our thoughts or behavior but when it actually comes it doesn't have the desired effect.

I'll give you an example. I've been frustrated the last few weeks about not having any physical contact with my W besides a hug and kiss on the cheek in the morning. This weekend we actually made out on her initiative. Now before that happened I thought getting that kind of physical signal would set me on feeling that we are finally arriving. It did answer the question of whether she still had feelings of chemistry and attraction for me - no doubt I felt it this weekend. But it didn't have the impact on my psyche that I thought it would. Now my standard has changed to how about that kind of interaction a couple times a week, and throw in some snuggling and hand holding while you're at it. With this thinking I tend to overlook the time I just had and how nice it was.

Sometimes we hold onto a piece that we are not getting and it makes us lose focus on the positive things that are actually happening in the present moment. It acts as a sort of distraction. Kind of like the person who buys a new car and they feel fulfilled for a short time, then they are onto the next fix. I'm not saying this is happening to you, but I think if she met the bar you have set in your mind, the bar would merely change to something else you need to see. That movement of the bar can go on endlessly until we actually put a stop to it altogether. I speak from my own experience in this and it's just my point of view.

Anyway, I'm glad you are doing well.