Sis-Boom-Bah on the incredible type of guy you are.
This isn't a rollercoaster ride. It's an abduction complete with being bound, gagged and blindfolded transported to an unknown place then tossed down a hill. The lucky ones while stumbling come across a place like this. We find each other and bit by bit help remove the constrictions unexpected divorce proceedings, affairs, unhappiness of spouses brings us.
The past seven, eight months my mind has scoured my memories for what was my fault, continuing sense of bewilderment. Guess what.. Looking at the past doesn't matter. I can understand that he dove into her (wrong choice of words?) as a way to transition from the pain he felt during our marriage. OooOOOkay.
What matters now is the present. I tell ya, John.. join the choir. SING! It's amazing what really breathing and belting out songs can do for you. Do you know it changes ..darn.. your brain chemistry? Alters your mood.. dang.. I can't remember exactly what it does, but there's a reason why there's always singing in churches.. it does something good, heightens your openness to spirituality?
Sheesh... being queen of trivia only matters when I can get the tidbits right!
You're a good guy, John. Kick up your heels (and not the high ones you wear while vacuuming!)
I just want to clarify one thing, i am the one pushing for the financials to be in order and the D. I am doing this because for the first time in my life, I am thinking about ME. I just want to protect myself. To me, it is possible to be committed to someone even if you are not married (I have always felt this way). I could have lived the same way and done the same things without actually geting married. I think committment goes beyond paper. Therefore, a divorce is also paper (legal). In my mind the bond has been broken.
Let me see, I could join the church choir, take up yoga or salsa lessons. Keep the suggestions coming. I am leaning towards yoga right now so that i could improve my balance. it is very difficult for a guy to vaccuum in his undies and high heels.
Trust me I was kind of jolted by Gypsy's thong and high heels while vaccuuming description..........I would either have to drink alot (and i mean ALOT) of wine or really REALLY like the person who is asking me to "dress up". As far as posting pictures on FB go, I do not want to disappoint the ladies so I will be keeping my clothes on.
Ok, ok.....before this gets out of hand.....nobody needs to worry about seeing any pictures of me in a thong and or high heels (especially if i am holding a suction instrument) anywhere. Now that we cleared that up, I will go shopping for some tights for my yoga class.......
To me, it is possible to be committed to someone even if you are not married (I have always felt this way). I could have lived the same way and done the same things without actually geting married. I think committment goes beyond paper. Therefore, a divorce is also paper (legal).
john210 - I Totally, agree with your statment! I could not have said it better myself. Enjoyed the crazy bit of humor on your thread too!!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
