LOL. Are you serious? Kind of a defeatist mindset doncha think?
Anyhow, you learned what works. Control what you can--your happiness and life choices. The rest will follow.
Honestly, if the point is to work on the relationship I might consider a workshop type of weekend to start with-- but that's just me and to be honest, when we get away for the weekend, time alone together has been enough.
Did you check out Sara's thread like BBJ suggested? The program she wrote about has had wonderful results for many people in the piecing stage. They do require that there be no 3rd party in the R and that you have an open mind and heart. Or something like that. Sara explains it really well.
