You had better duck! I have connections! TONY!!!!!!
Tony was listening to Journey and got whacked. he can no longer help you.
Congrats on all of it G..I hope you and your W have lots of patience when building that house. Contractors are on their own timline. It's lots of fun but lots of stress too..
It's always wonderful to hear how you're doing. Having a joint activity (beyond sweaty things) always works well.. though building a home from the ground up can be very taxing.
Sorry... I doubt anyone want to read day after day of "everything's going well, W is awesome, my life is returning." If I'm wrong, let me know. Happy to post the mundane.
Hey, G, I made the big hike over here again!!! Whew! Need to get in better shape! I think we all enjoy hearing the happy and mundane! Gives us hope which is a good thing! Congrats on your new property and house--it sounds wonderful!!! Karen
I had a meeting for work this past weekend in Boston, W went with me. Friday evening was at Fenway. The game started late because of the weather and a rain delay in the middle - so it didn't finish until about 1am. And, yes, smw - the Yanks won... 19-5!! By the end, there were only a few thousand people still at the park, so we got to watch the last half of the game down at field level very near home plate. Very different watching a game there. We had a lot of fun.
Saturday morning I was at meetings, in the afternoon we got to walk around town but the weather was pretty wet. That night there was a dinner for the meeting attendees and their spouses. In years past, this was a formal event - so W had a new dress on (red, strapless, just below knee-length) and I had my tux. But when we got there, we realized we were a bit overdressed but W looked gorgeous and got a lot of compliments - she deserved them!
Drove back on the leading edge of Kyle and relaxing at home today. We should be getting modified (final?) house plans this week. I know it is a big undertaking but we are both taking it as an adventure. Hopefully as it progresses, we'll handle the expected stresses alright. We are hoping to get it started before the winter freeze.
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Just an idle thought. While I am confident there is nothing left between W and XOM, there are still some residual feelings of resentment/pain. I generally do my best to keep them below the surface, and try not to let it affect my actions towards W. W said the other day that she hates the feeling that people consider her "the bad guy" in this. On the one hand I think she should feel the ramifications and consequences of her infidelity. On the other hand I had my own part in the problems in our M and in order to heal and improve our R, there is nothing constructive in trying to continue making her feel guilty about past actions. I don't really have a point or a question, though thoughts/feedback are welcome.
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This is where unconditional love and real giving comes in, my friend. The resentment and pain will, I am sure, take time to get over. However, every day I want you to think of at least two things directly related to your wife that you are thankful for or appreciate. write it down. You can give it to her or even convey it to her. As you both refill your love tanks, the bad feelings will go away. It is still early days for you guys. DO not be too hard on yourself.
If you are up to it, I would like your impression of what I am doing on my thread, please and thank you.
Oh, and BTW---GO YANKEES!!
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I think it is really important to keep talking things out, even if she is tired of hearing about it. Ex and I didn't do that the first time and it came and bit us in the rear BIG time. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I didn't mean to imply we have stopped dealing with it. I agree, nothing would be worse than to simply ignore the A, what led to it, and our feelings afterwards. I'm just trying to walk the line between addressing our important issues and artificially requiring her to be contrite.
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Just stopping by to see that things are still going great with you. I mentioned you on a date I had last night that there are good guys like yourself that do all they can to hold to their vows of marriage even when faced with what you had to go through. Keep it up man!
Whew! Need to get in better shape!