Thanks John, I'm learning to realize that I tried as hard as I could to be a better husband and a better father and to keep my marriage together, but, I couldn't keep it together because she doesn't want to be married to me any more. That's a lesson that the kids need to know earlier rather than later too.
Thanks Kerry. I'm in no way wanting to keep my W from spending time with the kids, I just don't want her having any legal standing to influence or interfere with their lives. The step-parent thing is something that I hadn't really given much thought to. I'll have to think on that one more.
Yes, they are all scum-sucking bastards with no integrity and no honor and so are the OM/OW. Someone asked me last night if I was done with my W or if I could envision a future with my W. I thought about it and I realized that the answer is no. I'd have to see so much change and personal growth before I would risk my heart with her again and by that time, who would I be? No. I'm done with this one and I'm sad and sometimes it still hurts.
Of course, I balance the hurts against things like the young lady I met Saturday morning who as I dropped her off at her apartment kept asking me "Are you going to call me and take me on a date?" I guess at least a few people find me valuable
