This is so normal DByD--- Once the initial *honeymoon* phase of the recommitment kind of cools off, we are all (former LBS and WS) left with some form of residual hurt, fear, doubt, and anger. You are not complaining, you are realistically questioning something that many fail to do and end up back in crisis mode.
She does still feel pressure. She's waiting to have to "pay" for hurting you. You have to make your marriage strong and loving every day; a loving relationship isn't something you have, but something you do.
2 suggestions for now.
Have you checked out the KLA section and tapes on this site?
Check out Sara's thread on Retrouvaille. She's got one in this forum, it's on page 2 at the moment but I'll bump it for you after I submit this post in case you are still around.
Congrats on making it this far, daybyday, and for continuing to seek a loving marriage.
