If you really want to work this out, you need to accept the fact that your husband, for the time being, is still sleeping with the OW.
Nagging him about it and blowing up won't help.
You are trying to negotiate. with him, not brow-beat him. Do it from a cool state of mind.
What we are talking about here is what works.
On the other hand, ask youself what kind of wife you need to be to keep him from straying, Yoyo. He acts like he's always ready to bolt at the LEAST provocation. And you still cater to that. the balance of power is still in his favor. You have to shift that. I'm seeing little or NO changes in him. You are still walking on eggshells around him berating yourself for being mad that your husband, who claims to want to work it out, is STILL seeing the OW.
Effectiveness is one thing, living the rest of your life walking on eggshells is another.
After two years of this he needs to learn to accept that his infidelity will get you MAD.
If you want, state the terms in writing, be cleat, blunt and don't back down. He either meets them or he doesn't.
We discussed this a long time ago in previous posts, Yoyo. What do YOU want from this marriage? You seem to want to save it with only one condition, he stops sleeping with OW. Is that all you want from your life with him? He hasn't changed much.
You need to drive this train, Yoyo. Stay in control.
