I have felt so much loss in this whole situation.....my marriage, my "perfect" family, some friends, and now some family.
The fallout from a failed marriage can seem endless for the LBS. My XH and I have been D for 13 years and I still have to deal with it and I know it will continue for years to come...even after they are adults, there will be (hopefully) graduations, weddings, grandkids, etc. where I am sure there will be issues that will arise. My XH and his wife want to continue to blame me for so many things but can never look at themselves as the source of any problem. Prepare yourself that your H and the OW could do the same. If they were healthy, happy people, they would have a conscious and would NOT be able to do the things they have done. And I believe as time goes on and the more crap they pile on to the heap, the harder it will be for them to look at themselves.
How can you think you sound pathetic?...your life as you knew it and planned it has been destroyed. BUT through that destruction, you will rebuild. There will be happiness for you where ever you are if you look for it...even in a small town where his family and friends are. Hold your head high and show all of them your strength and grace...and you will find new friends and reconnect with old friends.
Take care of yourself and look for all of the blessings you have in your life.
