Dang it, my friend. After re-reading my last post to you, I realized how many questions I had. Sorry...
Admittedly, the letter and general communication with your W's D sounds suspicious. In my last post I wrote a few things (which I ended up deleting 'cuz I wanted more info.) that I'm going to revisit now.
KAW, you know my stance on communication. When our Ses are in WA-mode, it's best to keep certain (if not most) things at bay; however, when we're in Piecing, certain things can fester if they are not discussed. I understand how your W doesn't like to talk about certain things, but it also seems like you'd rather avoid some of these discussions as well because of what you'll find out. Doesn't it, at this point, seem best to just lay everything out on table? What do you honestly have to lose? If your W is thinking about bolting, then you'll know now and can do something about it. If your W is NOT considering bolting, then your fears will be eased.
Thing is, there is a quagmire of misdeceptions going on here: - You SECRETLY read her journal. - You find out about her SECRETS. - Now you each have secrets that are not being discussed.
Because you've read about her "thoughts" you analyze her behavior based around what you've read in her journal and likely overlook other reasons. Like LL said, this builds further distrust and the wall continues to rise. She's not talking, you're not talking, you're making assumptions, etc. It's a vicious cycle that's going to (and frankly, is) drive you nuts. What's your tolerance threshold?
Perhaps it's time to talk to her, KAW...and I mean really TALK...
