Over the years I have followed the DB process. It has allowed me to get on with my life. There isn't a day that doesn't go by when I remind myself of the process. I've also learned that the process varies for each one of us. For some it's a short process. For others, it may never end. I see that by the length of time that some of us have been here. I think that's OK. I also try and follow principles of Buddhism. I see a lot of similarity between Buddhism and DBing.
I am seeing some anger and jealousy here. When our hearts are filled with pure love we cannot be disturbed by anger or jealousy. Either your heart is a loving heart or you are still filled with anger and jealousy. Ask yourself why you are angry or jealous here. Virtuous actions cause happiness and non-virtuous actions cause suffering, is taught by the Buddhas based on their perfect knowledge. I have learned this for myself.
A few of the postings, by a few people in this thread, are non-virtuous. People who post negative remarks here do so out of concern for their own welfare. I'm not sure how that helps them to be more loving. I can understand why some people here are still hurting. All of us still hurt from time to time. Posting on Surviving reminds many of us to come back to the DB principles and to listen to Buddhas words.
BUT, there is little point in confessing our negative actions if we have no intention to refrain from committing them again in the future. I don't post on Surviving that much anymore. But when I do I try and do it with a loving heart. Namaste ...Soup
