Starting from scratch

[daybyday]

i have posted b4 in newcomers after bomb in feb. w and i never separated and w recommitted in late may. ea was exposed. right the recommitment, for about 1 month, there was a lot of affection showed by both. it has slowed down some but is still there. the sex is great. really no big complaints. i am happy to be where i am now. but this feeling of always waiting for the other shoe to drop haunts me almost every day. i also harbor some resentment about some of things she said to me. but on the other hand, she tells me she loves me, that she is"in love with me". why cant i just be happy with that. i mentioned to her the other night in bed that it seems she never reciprocates when i touch her or snuggle etc. she got kinda pissed and said, "you want everything right now. why couldnt you have said, gee honey i wish we could snuggle more" i guess i was wanting thing to be how i hoped they will be. also, she becomes really affectionate when she senses 5hat i'm down about something. then she will seek me out and get in my face and give me a kiss. it seems that the more i pursue, themore she withdraws. the less i pursue, the more she comes to me. i guess i have to find that happy medium. i dont know. i just feel like i always have to be "on" or she is going to lose interest. that just wears me out somedays. but i am so grateful to still have her with me . i'm sure like most here that affection has become really important. just a touch of the shoulder as she walks by or whatever. that stuff goes a long way. at least with me. i really dont know why i'm complaining. things are good. but sometimes i feel like i want to make them better, and she doesnt. she is is, but just in her own way. blah, blah, blah, sorry. i'll shut upnow. would just like a little advice on how you proceeed. and how do you know when you have made your marriage a strong and loving one?