My W did call yesterday afternoon and asked what I wanted. I told her just to bring D11's clothes to court today. She was a little snippy.
Then she started crying. It was pretty much the standard stuff. She hurt because not I go out and do things and did not with her, never happy in the seven years we have been together, why did it take so long to change ect. It was still all about her and how much she hurt. I should have just hung up.
The only difference was how I responded. I did not argue about her emotions, but I did throw the truth back at her from time to time. I agreed with some things. I put her on the spot about her D me and having an A. She did try and bait me with the well what about. She tried a few times so I just shut her down with the truth.
I found it interesting that she said that our M was an experiment for me so that I could figure things out and make someone else happy. She actually said that twice.
The thing that irritated me was at the end. Would I still be there for D11. If I find someone else would I abandon her. How many weekends have I taken her. That she knows it is always at conveniance of the father figure and she realizes that. Then she said she had to go and hung up.
D11 is actually a SD but I have been around her since she was four so she sees me as her dad. The girls real dad is scumbag that hardly sees them or talks to them. He did at one time choose a woman over the kids.
I am sure that played into it. My w's dad also abandoned her when she was little. It is still not an excuse to say that kind of crap to me. Some people would just say they are your kids and walk out on all of them at this point.
It is not in me to abandon her, even though there is no biology there. I have always treated both of them as my D's for the past seven years and I am not going to stop now.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
