Amy thanks for your reply. I kinda figured that was the answer. My W has a tendency to keep things bottled up. She keeps talking about not being happy for 4 years, year my dad died. I know I went throguh a lot of changes, even bought I book called understanding male menopause, Man-O- Pause. I try not to analyze, but I end up doing it anyway. Its been two months of hell for me. everyday I don't think I can go on anymore. If I could, I'd like to ask you how long you went through it. I haven't read your sitch, but would like to know if you reconciled and what brought you back. I know there is no guarantee she will come back to me, but I need to keep my faith in my belief that she will. Its all I have right now to keep me moving. People keep telling me that she will "wake up" and "snap out of it" one day and realize what she had. I did have afriend of mine that went through it, took her about 3.5 months to realize that her marriage was to good to just throw away. She never really told me that she was or wasn't having an affair, but she was going out and doing the partying scene like crazy. She told me it got old quick, then when she didn't hear from her husband other than when he picked up the kids, she started getting nervous. I know there is no set time where I can figure that she will start her way back to me. I am wondering too, you made a comment about her watching me, everything I do. She wants to know if I am someone she can come back to and fall apart in front of. What is it you think she is looking for? What signs can I look for from her? did you leave signs for your husband to follow or give him indications you were coming back? Thanks,,,,
