This list is excellent, lots of good stuff to work on! I remember reading when i first joined here about your h's reaction when you withdrew and I think that seeing as it hasn't worked (twice?) before I wouldn't personally risk it again. You have spent a few months now building up (or repairing the damage) from last time and now you are on an even keel (sp?) with him you want to build on that. JMO.
A few questions. Does he ever talk about interesting things HE has done? Can you ask him over to watch TV with you when you know it is his favourite programme, or a programme you have discussed? I know you watch football but assume that is in a pub? If he came over you could cook for him (omitting the peas of course) and show him that it is ok to be in the same room/ home as you again. Maybe after a few of these you could start initiating some physical contact - even if it is just 'my feet are cold can a warm them on you' (lol maybe that is just me!).
The push up bra made me laugh so much! What did you ask him for help with? What % do you initiate meeting up and what % does he?
I personally think that calling him on bad behaviours or confronting him is not such a good idea. Maybe it is just my h though but they get scared. I more like the ideas of setting clear boundaries. The next time he is naughty we can do this.
