Your post this morning has done my heart a world of good! I appreciate your kind words so much and am THRILLED to see you moving to a better place. It is SO hard to get there when all of life's horrors seem to be thrown at you at once. I coped by remembering I only had to get through one day at a time.
Yes, you have been through the mill. You are wise to know that you played a part in it (just as I did and everyone else on this bb). But we did not make the ultimate "BAD" choice that our walkaway spouses did. Still, we cannot dwell forever on what they did and stay in victim mode. We have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and somehow make a new life from the pieces of our old one. If not for ourselves, for our children. Like me, you have had to endure the illness of your child on top of it all. But I always reminded myself that God never gives you more than you can handle.
Be strong, FLTC, and keep moving forward. I truly believe you have just conquered a major hurdle. I am so very proud of you and pleased to be your friend.