Jill,

These are the exact feelings I have about posting. I am in such a better place than I was about three years ago at this very time, when making my bed was exhausting, much less doing well at work.

I stopped seeing a "therapist" because we went over the same sh*t every week to the tune of $185! Although she brought up some good stuff, and helped me to see some things differently,
I told her "I was tired of the LIFESTYLE". I bailed on medications for the same reason. (Now it's just beer and Chardonnay!)

Our spouses bailed. Period. They showed us and our kids:

1. Relationships are disposable, even those where you vow to stay throught thick and thin. Glad I didn't have this kind of relationships in Iraq!

2. When things get hard, quit.

3. It's OK to have an affair if it makes you....."happy". I heard this twice from my D16 about how Smarmylawyerboss makes "mom happy". I can guarantee it didn't come from D16.

4. "Happiness" whatever that means, comes from someone else supplying it to you.

Even I have begun to post less these days. I have some free time today, because it is staff development day at school, so no kids are here.

If you don't come back to these parts for a while, thnaks so much for your support through my time in Iraq and when I came back to the same mess I left.

Love ya'

FLTC