Darn.. I guess my warm fuzzies weren't much help when it came to your toe! I'm a toe mangler, too. One time I dropped a Kirby vacuum cleaner on my big toe while taking it out of the car, smashed my funky way too long second toe while getting out of the shower, and broke my pooor lil pinkie toe in two places when a full one gallon jug of maple syrup fell from the top of the refrigerator. I feel your pain.
When I'm having a really really reallllly bad day, I decide the remainder of that day or the following day will be a 'spouse free day'. My focus is on not thinking about him, having scant or no interaction with him. I give myself the freedom NOT to have him be part of my day. It really helps.
Imagine life as a simmering stew with a spice cabinet beside it. Ideally you choose what to add to make the most savory stew possible. Conflict, emotional chaos, divorce left unchecked can compel you to toss just about every spice possible into the stew. When you feel that rush of emotion that leads to another feeling of helplessness, that leads to despair, anger, wretchedness.. Stop. Choose what you feel. Pick on thing and feel it, deal with it.
Yes.. there's a million things going on.. but pick one at a time. Be kind to you.
