Q&A with the WAS

[istherehope]

Thanks Bridge,

I really appreciate your thoughtful responses.

In terms of my H working through his resentment so quickly, I'm not sure yet...he HAS been seeing a therapist, and HAS been reading loads of self-help books, and trying to do everything in his power to get himself well as a person, regardless of how the R turns out, so I think if anyone were able to work through something quickly, it would be him, but I don't know for sure. Also for what it's worth, there were no issues of infidelity, lying, abuse or anything in our sitch. He felt that I was controlling; this was the major issue. I am not saying it's not a legitimate one, only that it "should" be easier to deal with than some of the other issues I've seen (I hope!)

What I meant by the LBS acting calmly to your anger was, would this make you feel less angry? I think you answered this though by saying you would be looking for empathetic listening. I hope I have been doing this...I sure have tried!

Thanks also for talking about how you would have wanted your H to react to the olive branch. This is really nice to see. I am going to take your words to heart and hope that I can live up to them.

I hope you are well. Your help is greatly appreciated!

ITH