SUPERCALAFRAGILISTICEXPEALIDOCIOUS !!!!!!!!!!

[ACJ]

I agree 100% on the financial issue. My sitch is not going to end the way I wanted (still want) it to. So now that I have finally accepted that (after nearly 3yrs) I am making sure that me and D13 especially can stay in our home for as long as we want to and not for as long as H will allow us. So just in the last week I have agreed to pay H the equivalent of nearly a year's wages to buy him out of the house. Is it scary? Hell yeah! Do I feel worse than I did before? No I feel liberated! I couldn't have done this when H first left (even though he wanted me to) and if I had it would've cost me more b/c the housing market was so much more buoyant. H won't spend my hard earned money wisely but once I am financially independent of him it won't matter b/c it will no longer affect me.

IRMAT the temptation when you read threads here is to want that for yourself NOW and very often the fact that someone has taken 1,2, 3, 4 ,5yrs to get there gets overlooked. Take your time and your sitch will turn out right in the end. It just may not be how you though it would be.