Close encounters of the MLC kind

[hoosiermama]

Again, right on the mark! I have, all along, intended for him to pay for all legal fees. After all, this is his divorce, not mine, so he should foot the bill. I doubt I'll get spousal support--he'll fight tooth and nail about that one. It's a family thing: his mom still works at 73 and will as long as she can stand because dad retired at 59 because his feet hurt. So there's an expectation there. But I do intend to get all the CS I can manage, because D deserves all the advantages he can give her. She wanted to take harp lessons badly, and that's been back-burnered because of this. I want her to have harp lessons. He's moving into an apartment which is undoubtedly quite pricey, and that's just foolish until he knows how this will turn out financially for him. He feels entitled to have a wonderful single life (as well as to live out life as it was 22 years ago, apparently). However, I think it will be relevant that I came into the marriage with no debt and a down payment for a house, and he came in with nothing but debt. I supported him thru 2 years of graduate school and a year of residency. And I have copies of the emails that reveal the affair. They are quite explanatory; I think he's in for a shock if I need to pull those out, because in his denial he doesn't believe they say anything. But they say everything about why and when he left. As for attitude--I'm right there with you.