Close encounters of the MLC kind

[hoosiermama]

Oh dear, everyone's fallen asleep reading my looooooonnnngg posts!

But really, for anyone making it through all that stuff--I learned a lot today by writing it down. I'm in a much stronger place, feeling much more detached. And in my case I need to be detached, not simply self-differentiated!

I see my lawyer on Wednesday to strategize and turn in my financial disclosure--which I really can't do until I get my first pay stub on Friday. But anyway, I need some advice. Because I go back and forth on this. Do I try to drag this out as long as I can to give OW the opportunity to dump his a** and see if he comes whimpering back with his tail between his legs (which will present me with quite the dilemma), or should I just get thru it and get past it (with fair financial settlements, of course)? In Indiana, the wait is only 60 days after filing, which happened on 9/8. I know things can turn around even in 60 days, but honestly I don't see that happening in my sitch because he's never so much as glanced back; no amount of db'ing has had any effect on him. And best-case scenario, if he gets through the tunnel and becomes the new and improved H--it's going to take some time. Years, not months most likely. And I need to get on with my life and not have this hanging over my head. No, I don't want to be divorced, God knows. But it's going to happen, and I need some kind of strategy so I don't feel like such a victim.