No Longer Waiting

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" feel like I am being pushed out, erased, etc. His family have been my family for over 25 years. It just hurts that they have this new person to....I don't know....accept, love?!?!"

I related to this, too. I finally realized that I needed to say something to in-laws (while understanding their predicament). I have pulled back from them. It hurts but I am not part of their family any more. I told them that I am sorry that they are in this predicament but no, I did not want to go to dinner with them when they were accepting OW and essentially aiding in the destruction of my marriage. MIL in particular has never really listened to me or responded to a very simple request that I had of her when all this starting to happen.

With that said, you have to expect this--he is their son and what can they do? IIf you understand their predicament, it helps to try to have some compassion.

As far as the public part of this situation, you have nothing to be ashamed of--your H is the one who did this. At the same time, I understand that there is a certain humiliation to the whole situation.