Monday was an exceptionally bad day. I came home and drank way too much wine with my neighbor. I sent H a text that said ILY! He didn't reply. I sleeped surprisingly well.
Wednesday, I knew OW was out of town so I sent H a text that said I miss him and I want him. He actually replied 'What for?'. We sent text back and forth but his were mostly I had my chance, I took him for granted, he was happy and for me to find someone else because he wasn't coming back. I kept mine non-confrontational which was hard at times but I kept saying that I can forgive him and that we can work things out and be happy. Not as positive as I'd hoped but I guess him replying was at least something or am I just grasping at straws here?
S16 had his homecoming dance last night. I tried to call H after S16 and his girlfriend (neighbors daughter) left to tell him about the night. My neighbors and I had played a joke on them that she and her husband were going to be chaperons. I'd made school letterhead, the letter was believable, it was very funny - at least we thought so. I thought H would get a laugh but H never called me back. He finally called me back late this am and I told him that I'd called because I thought he might be interested in S16's evening. H said he was interested but he'd rather speak to S16. I also asked him who I needed to contact about our leaking gas lanterns on our house. He said he didn't know...just light them and the problem would be solved. He's such and ASS!!! Called H's brother and he helped me.
I a few weeks ago I found out that OW had been involved with another man from Sept - Dec. 2007. I called the man to verify and he acknowledged everything but said he had left her because she was getting too klingy. She wanted someone to support her and her 3 kids. His words. I also found out that she'd racked up $30K in credit card debt that her xh is still paying for. Her xh had also given her $30K to get situated after their divorce but she told everyone that he left her in debt and didn't give her any money. Her xh has verified that he did take a $60K loan on his 401K to pay off her credit card he didn't know about and the $30K to get her on her feet after their D. Do I tell H?
About 8 yrs about I'd taken out a $10K signature loan to pay off a credit card H didn't know about and to reduce the payments and repayment time on our credit card. H found out about it 6 yrs ago and it was all paid off. It never caused us to be late for any bills, put us in any financial bind, etc. But when I asked H why he cheated, he brought up the loan and said a deception is a deception. So he was justified in cheating on me because of my signature loan. Crazy I know but he's trying to justify everything he's done to me and our S's. Do I tell H about her big debt and lies?
A little help here would be appreciated. I believe he needs to know but I don't think he'll believe me.
