Thankfully I am not the same person I was and the changes happened in both me and my Husband.
I had to take the focus off of him and begin the work on myself, and believe me there was a hell of a lot of stuff to do.
Snodderly is absolutely right when she says you have to protect yourself financially. I really wish I had listened more to the initial advice I received when I first began posting here.
I was more afraid of upsetting my Husband and pushing him away, so I remained like a deer caught in the headlights until I finally got the courage to stop being stuck.
Unfortunately I was totally dependent upon my Husband for all of my finances as I was unable to work outside of the home due to lack of child care. He would play games with me and some of the things I chose to tolerate because I needed him to give me money. Payday was every other Thursday, so I had to be nice to him every other Wednesday.........
It all sounds so ridiculous now, when I look back at some of those old threads and see how I behaved and how I reacted to every single one of his antics.
I allowed alot of things to happen, as I mentioned above out of fear of the unknown and fear of a Divorce. Now, in hindsight I would have handled things very differently.
Blessings to you also, and have a wonderful week.
((((hugs))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
