Treese, I don't know what it is about this weekend and these H's. H asked me to take the girls Friday night, even though it is his weekend. I, of course, said yes. I sent him an email telling him that I had an 8:00 a.m. Saturday appointment and asking him what time he would pick up the girls. He never responded. Yesterday morning, D calls me at my appointment, worried because H texted her and said he was busy and would pick her up from her activity. She didn't know how she would get there. We both thought that H would take her. But I reassure her that I would take her. Second D then calls upset because she wanted to go to a meet and H can't take her. Again - he's busy. I head home early to take care of both.
This morning, D calls in a panic. H went to a race and she needs to be at a fundraiser in less than an hour. It would take me 20 minutes to get to her and then another 20 to get her to the fundraiser. I am in a robe with wet hair. I tell her that I will be there. As I am frantically trying to get out the door, D calls back and said that H finally responded to her numerous missed calls and texts. He heads home to take her.
MWG is right about the concept of time. But I think it goes beyond that. They also have no concept of anyone else, except themselves. You and I make our children a priority. At least my H does not. He sees the kids two weekends a month. Yet he thinks nothing about asking me to take a night, or going to a race without them for four hours, or having the younger one (12) babysit OW's three children for a night so they can go out (don't get me started on that one!!!).
It is the ultimate in selfishness, which can be very difficult to accept.
MWG is right - from what I have read, she does know how you feel. We all do.
Hang in there. Try and focus on the positives (your child has a wonderful role model in you). Sometimes it works for me.
