Sorry True you feel down. As far as the e-mail my personal thoughts are a simple response something like h sorry you are feeling this way. I will have to do some thinking and get back to you and then you know you don't have to get back to him.
Sometimes the best things to do are nothing or simply don't respond at all.
No need to tell him what you want to. It will do NO good.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Hi nlt, Thanks for your hugs and checking in on me. Glad that your weather is also beautiful. My GAL for the week-end is not quite organized, but I might go to a local event tomorrow evening and ask one of my GFs whether she would also like to come.
My h will be 53 in February but he never says anything about his looks, age, etc.
I think my H's problems are mental to be quite honest. And he told me ow is really screwed up, too.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi glamgirl, Thanks for your advice. - I sometimes read your thread and I think your H is just about to return.
I have prepared a long e-mail answering H's questions, but I might consider your suggestion. However, I will have to let him know one day that I don't want to do the filing.
I have been in this sitch for over 3 years, and maybe it is time to tell him how I feel. I dont' think it will make any difference to him coming back as he does not intend to in any case.
But kind of you give me an advice. I will think about it.
You are right True it probably would make no difference by telling him how you feel. Remember men don't feel!
You could always let him know h I am NOT interested in filing at this time. When they are in a state of crisis nothing you really say is going to get to their soul.
Good luck with your h, don't let the years get to you. It's over 2 for me now.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
When they are in a state of crisis nothing you really say is going to get to their soul.
You are so right. I experienced it last time I stayed with H.
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Good luck with your h, don't let the years get to you. It's over 2 for me now.
Thanks for that, but I have the feeling that he will never come back. And I cannot wait for him forever!
Journaling: I had a 4 hour long hike with my friend yesterday. The weather was cloudy but sunny inbetween and we had a super view. We enjoyed the hike very much.
Today was another beautiful afternoon and I went for a short stroll. I called several GFs to ask them whether they would like to join me but unfortunately, none of them had time or were in. I wanted to go out in the evening but did not feel like it in the end.
Send us some of those clouds. It is getting hotter here--around 105-106 this coming week.
Sometimes I think these men get too comfortable in their situations and if we say something that seems out of step, they go bonkers because we have disrupted their little world. We are a part of it, too, and our world has been disrupted in so many ways. I think if he is ready to hear something, and only you will know the answer to that, then talk to him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
