Things were a bit touchy yesterday as there was drastic communincation issues over little things---if I was in a worse metnal place with him, I would have thought he was doing it deliberately.
Directions to a wedding reception were given to me wrong 3x (yes I checked after the first time, repeated them back etc.)
asking him to drop D off at my place when the reception was done (I left early to work on school stuff) in time for supper The request was acknowledged and then it was ignored with no phone call to tell me he had changed the plans
my request after all these fiascos that he help me remember to do a better job of checking & double checking expectations with verbal communication, was also ignored.
When he finally brought D back to my place (well after supper) and I shared my feelings of frustration about the days communication with him.. he did acknowledge he was being flippant in listening to me.
I told him his actions reminded me of the 'old days' of him being oblivious with me having to make sure all the families logistics were managed by me
and that make me feel scared that his changes weren't for real.
He said he could see how it could like that & he would try harder and put forth more effort than he had.
H's appointment with our joint C is Thursday while I'm gone to a conference out of town. We'll see if he keeps it or not.
I asked him to do some searching for alternatives that he thinks look promising and do-able to him. And then I shut up, not sending him weblinks or therapist websites.. nothing.. a 180 for me.
It is getting to the time of year where he is working 15-18 hour days 7 days a week until the end of November, (as weather permits). It is hard to get appointments & keep them based on the weather. His actions will be telling.
thanks for checking on me everyone. Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
