JWS, you sound like you are in a pretty good place overall. I don't think that the things you did were bad.
My W spent the night here on Friday night because she was watching the kids while I went out. In the morning, I rolled the windows down in her car so it wouldn't be hot inside when she and my son left to go spend the afternoon at the Bass Pro Shop. Afterward, I was a little upset at myself and I still am a little, but, I don't want to be a sour old man who let the F'ing over given to him change who he is.
I think that if we always let our character drive our behavior, we will be OK.
