I was trying to remember what you had said when I was writing that post but didn't want to misquote you but that is totally what I meant!
The family drama has been an ongoing thing since we got married and I have not spoken to either of his parents for nearly two years now. Everytime they come up in conversation it leads to a fight. I cannot seem to be civil about it. I am at the point now where I can say "I don't want to talk about it because it will only make me angry" but he seems to want me to burry the hatchet and move on. I am not ready yet. And even when I get to the point of forgiving them I still will not want my kids around them. The thought makes me nauseas and I don't even have kids yet! Insane.
But there is no point in stressing over it now. Down the line it will need to be sorted out and there will probably have to be some compromises made but I am not going to be the one making them all or else. It's really a deal breaker for me. Sad but true.
When we do see each other I am going to keep it calm and cool. No relationship talks, no family talks, nothing. Just focus on having a good time and building more positive memories between us.
I was reading through my previous threads last night when I was bored and I realized that while there have been some sucessful relationship talks along the way they usually are a precursor to drama. So even if we talk about one thing and it goes fine something changes in our mindset and things go downhill rather quickly afterwards, even if it is unrelated. Weird huh? But I thought that was a good pattern and something I need to watch out for.
