I want to echo what Sep said about not assuming that your H is not thinking about you. You have no idea what he is thinking about, and my money is on the fact that he thinks of you a LOT.
The WAHs usually DO feel guilty, and especially if really confused, probably don't want to reach out, potentially give us false hope, potentially be mean to us etc. It's a common story. I think we all see it. When he does come around, the best thing will be if you can show that you have not been impacted by his silence, or by any of the hurtful things that he may have said. It will also help a lot if he sees that you have your own things going on. This doesn't mean you don't want him around, and him saying that you are doing fine without him may just be another way to appease his own guilt. My H ALWAYS says things like "you're on an adventure" or other things to make it sound like I am really in such a great place and everything is OK, like I am th lucky one. I don't think he could live with himself if he thought that he had made me really miserable, probably the same with your H.
And yeah, the financial situations they put us in are not fair at all. I'm right there with you. Try to hang tight though. Please keep having faith in your situation. I still think it is really positive.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
