Thanks Being Me, I think the healing comes in pieces, just a little at a time and with a few fallbacks along the way. I must be patient with myself and not expect a perfect recovery! I am always too damn hard on myself and expect more than I would expect from anyone else in my place. I gotta remember to chill!Let things happen at the pace they will happen, not easy to do. Anyway, today I went to pick up the kids after church and found more of my belongings on the front porch. It feels so cold and hostile to approach me and my belongings in that manner. When I went in I had a welcome surprise though, STBX informed me that she just put those things there so I could go through them, she didn't know what I wanted to keep. If I couldn't take them today then that was OK. She told me that she was cleaning out the garage and would store any of my things there until I decided what to do with them. I still have books and other things that I just have no room for at my place, and yes, I need to take care of them. I told her to just toss the magazines and she said "Oh, but you used to love reading those magazines, why don't I keep them awhile longer and then you decide" That was really nice. People are so weird, me included. I had concluded that her putting my things on the porch was a hostile act and, actually, she just saw it as a convenient place to put them so I'd see them and go through them. She was really a pleasure to talk to today. She has her moments...too bad they became fewer and fewer over the years!