so yes, she is doing harm to them by trying to alienate you and SHE's the one who had the affair.. WtH???
It is, sadly, all part of the WAS playbook.
Hi NC..........
Yes unfortunately EVERYTHING she is doing is part of the playbook especially making you the fall guy and excusing her affair. Afterall, you were the reason that that evne happened. It's a tuff pill to swallow but that is how it seems to go.
Bruce (Dogma) wrote that we give MLC too much creedence for their actions. Sadly I do believe that this is right. It's only now (16 month post divorce) that I am honest with myself and recognize that there has always been an element of selfishness in ex that for whatever reason, I chose to ignore.
All you can do is be there for your boys. Don't allow yourself to be excluded, and more importantly make sure that she knows this in no uncertain terms. As far as school or extracurriculars are concerned, make sure that their teachers and coaches know the situation so that you are privy to the details of their lives. They only win if we allow it!
