H moved into his new home on Friday (our anniversary). Had a little party last night (D called me this morning and told me all about it). His parents, sister, and OW. OW had met in-laws before...when she was my friend. MIL didn't care for her (too "in your face" kind of person) and commented to me that she is so different from me. MIL is more quiet, reserved.
It is sad for me. I knew that this would happen, but no matter how much you prepare for it, it still hurts.
I love his parents. And while they have done nothing wrong, I feel like I am being pushed out, erased, etc. His family have been my family for over 25 years. It just hurts that they have this new person to....I don't know....accept, love?!?! I don't know. And I won't know how they feel - there has been no discussion of our situation with them. It is almost like they have been issued a gag order. I won't raise it because I don't want to make them uncomfortable - I do remember that he is their son and blood is thicker than water.
The weekends without my kids continue to hurt. I know what I need to do, but it isn't easy for me. My friends spend their weekends with their families or with other couples - no one else is divorced. Work people are all many years younger than me and they do the bar/drinking thing. I'm also more of an introvert so it is difficult. So how's this for a self-induced pity party? I am trying - I am volunteering at a school fundrasier today. But it is hard because it will be many 2 parent families attending. D is in new school this year, and so far, I have attended every function alone (parent/techer night, scheduling, freshman picnic, etc. - H doesn't know anyone so he doesn't attend). It just saddens me.
People are starting to find out about H and OW. The soap opera drama is starting. My boss got wind of it and made a comment to me. It is embarrassing and sad. And H continues to talk about our sex life. I run into people and just wonder - "what did he tell you?"
What I wouldn't give to move from this area. But it would be devastating to my D's, so I am stuck.
I give so much credit to those of you who still love your spouses and are waiting for this to pass. What they do is so incredibly hurtful...you have to be so strong to stand and forgive. I just can't imagine ever being friends with him, let alone anything more. And I always thought that I was strong person.....
