I see you are feeling the cat love. lol Since I've known you I have found you to be the most self-evaluating person I know. As hard as it seems right now, I think you need to stop thinking and start doing. Have dinner for friends, keep yourself busy with other people. You are alone with your thoughts way too much.
I know you are stressed about work right now too. Don't know any easy way around that except to maybe break it up into small pieces. I feel for you. I think perhaps up until the very end, you didn't think she would do it...just like I didn't think my H would. Well they did and now we have to get past it. These people turned out to not be who we thought they were. They have to live with themselves and their poor reasoning and choices. We do not.
Hugs, lodo. I am going back to bed.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory