Gosh Essie, that sounds like such a confusing picture. Theres clearly alot of 'stuff' lingering between you from your time apart and as you havent really sat down and had any convos about all of that.. its left hanging around, unspoken? Meanwhile... you are tentatively trying to be a couple again. I can see there are barriers to that, but I cant think what you can do about it. You have some resentments/fears still and that may be obvious, or even misinterpreted by him (DAM!) and that may be making him nervous? He has come round enough to want you back in his life, but the underlying issues that made him leave in the first place havent been quite resolved? BUT, at least he is including you in his life and with friends, which is all positive!

I hope someone else has some good insight, I am as confused as you are! Thinking of you though, as always
Ali xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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