He said it just happened, no big deal.

[kat727]

Forgiveness is not a free pass. However, you need to do it for you or those feelings are going to eat you up. Look at it as a gift you give yourself...peace.

I think you can treat as an "as if". Each day take a deep breath and think of your H and say I forgive you. Eventually you will. Just don't make the mistake I did(H had an affair early on in our marriage and we never really dealt with it and it came back and bit us in the rear), so you need to deal with all the reasons and talk things out and work on it.

My thoughts are with you. Hugs.

kat