Good news is that things with my D has improved immensely since our court date. I don't know if it's relief (for her) that it's over or if it determined the truth for her. Either way, I'm back to getting several phone calls a day, loving email msgs, etc.
Go mom!
I know how you feel about your X (I think). I have several GFs who are in my Divorce group and they are still very angry or very heartsick over their X's. I have to admit it feels a lot better to be past that!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker