"Last night I got a little reminder that I still have work to do on myself, regardless of how well I think I may be doing."
You gotta stop saying it.. and put some action into it.
Just a little rant on my part.. but it can get frustrating when you keep telling someone "what to do". They repeat it back.. maybe even agree.. and then almost "disregard" it. I have seen and written exactly what "someone" should do as well as "others" here (DB.com).. only to to see it fall on "deaf" ears. I understand.. that I have been in that situation too.. where I was not listening. But from that (past experience) I gotta say.. If you have "some people" (posters) following a common theme.. you owe it to yourself to explore that thought. DB'ing is about being "Smart".. not emotional.. making choices that effect the "long run" and not the "here and now".
I think this is a part of where "This is a walk of you" comes from.
/Rant off
In a M DB'ing never stops. Even if you do "Bust" your situation.. never stop DB'ing. Just as the bad stuff compounded on itself.. so will the DB'ing.
"Was she pissed? Did I get the "what the f*** are you doing here, checking up on me?"....when she saw me her face lit up and she smiled from ear to ear...glad to see me.
I told her I just wanted to make sure she got home safe, and apologized if she thought I was checking on her.
She told me the thought never crossed her mind and she was glad I came to get her. She apologized for not being more responsible."
Nothing wrong with that. Lots of good things.
"This afternoon she sent me a text to ask if I wanted her to make chicken wings for tonight, or wait for the game Sunday night."
Did you pick up the phone and call her with your decision?
And thank her for "thinking of you"?
I don't know.. I am seeing some signs of an Advanced DAM.
Time will tell...
I am not ready to Knight you quite yet.
Lucky Cricket!
I am gonna give you some props.. on the whole "showing up at the bar".. that was you "seeing" the issue.. and facing it.. and letting her tell you what she "saw".
That was the first time I saw you...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
