W2S, I actually do have a couple pics in the boys rooms of JA and the boys that I put in montage(sp?)frames. However, I just don't need the constant reminder of them having "fun" on their vacations with the ow. I highly doubt JA has any pics of me and the kids at his place.
I like your ideas... When I lose some weight, I will get some professional family photos done of the kids and I, and the little pup too.
Chicki, so far, my child support check does not come directly out of JA's pay, he just gives me the check or directly deposits it in my bank account.
Thanks MWG!
So, JA is at it again.
Thursday night I accidently left my cell phone in my car. When I got into my car I saw that he left me a bunch of VMs. The first couple of ones he said that he just wanted to talk to the boys and have them call him back.
Then he started getting nasty. He said that he would like to know the status of the boys but either I left my cell phone in the car or I was being vindictive and wouldn't let him talk to the boys. And since I had no house phone he couldn't reach me. He also said that he would pick s7 up at the bus stop.
I have had enough. I call him only to get his VM and I left a message saying that I DID leave my cell phone in the car, and he would of been able to call the boys on a house phone if he didn't go and cancel it on me before I had a chance for the cable company to take it over. I also told him that he can pick the boys up at 4pm at the house, not the bus stop.
He TM's me after: I supported you and paid all your bills for 2 plus years while you tried to take the boys away forever. When the judge said I could stop I did. BTW, I make XXXX a month and give you XXXX. Stop crying poverty.
The next one said: Stop being vengeous and start new.
The next: How long did you expect me to pay?
I ignored his TM's and just responded with 6pm pack meeting for boy scounts at s7 school.
He responded with, I will be there at 4pm to take them.
So at 3:45pm, while I am waiting for s7 to come off the bus, JA shows up at the bus stop.
He asks me if I plan on being there at the cub scouts that night.
I said "yes I am. I have to re-register him afterall.
JA: Well I spoke with my L and he said you had no right to be there.
Me: What? That is not true and I recall at one of the 4 way meetings that YOUR L said we should both be at these events for the kids.
JA: Well you better call your L then because my L said you shouldn't be there.
Me: Well, I am going and that is it.
I walked away from him to join some of my other neighborhood moms/friends and he follows me and starts to say something nasty.
I told him: Not here, I am not dealing with your sh!t right now.
He said "well I wouldn't of called up my L and made such a big deal about this cub scout thing if you would just let me pick the boys up early. I said "this is all about control with you. You need to be in control at all times."
At this point S7 bus pulls up and I started to walk toward it to get him off the bus.
JA says "I will get him."
Me: no, I will, we are still on my time afterall.
JA runs up to grab s7 off the bus and proceeds to hold him like a 2 year old. He wouldn't even let me go near him to say hello to him, nothing.
After a couple of minutes I said to JA, he doesn't need to be held like a 2 year old in front of his friends.
He tells me to go away.
The whole time I could tell S7 wanted to say hello to me but he looked afraid to as he didn't want to make his father mad.
So finally I just said goodbye to S7 and said to him that I would see him later.
I get home and JA calls my cell. He says "I just talked to S7 and he says he does not want to join the cub scouts anymore."
I just said "yeah, whatever" and hung up.
S7 was excited about joining and now all of a sudden he doesn't want to join? I know he talked him into not joining.
So then I call my L. Some help he is. He said "look, you are just going to have to learn to deal with this."
I said to him "so, let me get this straight? I have to deal with his manipulation and harrassment for the next 15 years or so?"
My L said "well we can't always take the nitty gritty things before the judge. She may be one of those judges that says that visitation has dominance over everything else. So just sign him up for boy scouts and he will just have to miss the events on the weekends that JA has him."
I said to him "this isn't right. The courts obviously don't have the children's best interest in mind first. So he is just going to continue to get away with his BS and no one will hold him accountable for it."
My L: well usually when everything is all signed things go smoother and the spouse will usually be cooperative.
I said "well that's not going to be him. What's the point of having an agreement in place if he doesn't have to follow it? Even with this bus stop thing, s7 doesn't have a chance to come home for a few minutes, tell me how his day was, show me the homework he has to do, etc."
My L: Well, I will write him another letter.
Me: fine.
Like that is going to do anything.
I am so damn annoyed. JA gets to walk all over me and gets away with it for the next 15 years.
I was so stressed out last night that I didn't even want to talk about it here.
Instead, I went out an ordered some pasta, brought a bottle of red wine, and came home and caught up on some of my tv shows I had dvr'd.
As for JA, I can't stand him.
Oh, and I finally did get my home phone back on. At least that is a plus.
