ok im late with the birthday wishes.. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR LWB>
Your a wonderful person and absoulute great mommy. Never forget that. Your h is a lost soul and will only end up right back where he is , nowhere..
I was thinking of you this morning. I booked a trip to disney which we were orginally not going to go, but we said, Its only money, we have been through such a terrible summer, we deserve it. So off to disney on the 11th of Dec.. I was thinking last time we went you were there too, it made me sad,
BUT you are much better without him, really you are. You are lucky that you can support your girls and be on your own, its got to be somewhat liberating considering what you have been through.
((((lwb)))) HOpe your bday was great!!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
TAL, I am sooo happy you booked Disney. Always make the "Disney" decision. Always.
Gypsy, girl. Thanks for the shout out!!!
Journaling:
My girls LOVE gymnastics. Wow. I am so glad it fell together and they started. We had a fantastic weekend. D4 was ill (fever, headache), but a huge trooper. H was 'sick' on Sunday and apparently forgot he doesn't live at the house. He came over (I took off work to be with sick D4) and proceeded to sleep all day. I was furious.
It bubbled over to a nasty fight with him last night. Me stating boundaries, him not caring, etc. He said at one point "Ok, fine. You don't want me here, then I take the girls when you make me leave". Low low low that he has to fling that at me, because he knows it hurts. I told him so. It was an ugly fight, but I said what I said, and steered him away from his typical fairy tale past talk. We are peaceful, but we'll see about the boundaries I stated.
We will be divorced in less than 3 weeks. In some ways, I canNOT wait. In other ways, wow. Its coming up fast.
Hey lwb, Bethie wanted me to let you know that yes, she's been banned from the bb. Because she refuses to beg her way back onto the bb, Sally can get Bethie's email addy from Swashy aka Squishy. She wants you to tell Gypsy and No Code also. And if you need her she's only an email away.
Ok, thanks! Unfortunately (or fortunately) I am not savvy enough to unravel the drama that happened today, while I was blissfully playing Barbies and Go Fish at home. But I am sad to see some really really supportive members gone. People that welcomed me to Surviving, when it was a really hard move for me.
What a jacka$$ your stbxh is! He knows that talking about your babies is the only way to get to you. He knows that you are strong and that the OW no longer gets to you. He knows those babies are your life... Just idle threats though, no judge would allow him to take them away from a mother like you.
The DBing Posse is going to have to come after him and take him down a notch! Check out Karen's thread in Infidelity, there's a t-shirt design we're working on, you may want to get one!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
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