The first thing I want you to do is give yourself a new and positive screen name - I am not joking.
Then I want you to read my first few detailed posts to other members such as Tyguy and Tiredofpain - click on my name and you'll find them - you're not the first guy to show up on this board with this problem. I've given in those posts a lot of information already which I've no time to repeat right now.
I then want you have to consider this next point very carefully:
YOUR PROBLEM GOES WAY DEEPER THAN SIMPLY A LACK OF SEX.
As I've said to other guys in your position, the lack of sex is just a symptom (not the only one) of a certain mindset and attitude to life that you have and have probably had for many years.
I want you to start delving into that mindset - passive, fearful, ashamed, impoverished - right now. If you can, write up your thoughts on where it comes from, where you think its taking you right now, and where YOU want to take your life instead.
Have a real brainstorm and post up the results. I will check in later this weekend.
You've come to a good place with some very wise people that can definitely help you.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
