#3 Sorry wrong button again!! I need help. Im a fixer. ANd I cant fix this. I have done everything beside eat ground glass and stand on my head to make this work and he doesnt want anything to do with it. As a quick recap, he dropped the bomb in May. I had no earthy idea anything was wrong. In hind site I guess there were clues to his distancing, and he swore that the " friendship he had with this OW was really friends. I did question it. We had been down this road before. I really believe in my heart that she is a bandaid and that it wont last. She has done this before. When you do know when it is time to give up? When do I stop torturing myself with the idea that Maybe, just maybe, this next trick might work? I am getting a life. I really am. It is just hard to function at times. I try to put this out of my mind and press forward and I feel like the business just masks my pain. I have never really gotten angry at him because I know his pattern. He puts up a wall and locks you out. He is doing that now. NO contact will not make him see the pain, feel the pain or have to reflect on the wrong he is doing. How can someone who has supposedly loved you for 20 some odd years do such mean hurtful things. I dont get it. Some one help me understand?
H 47 Me 47 Married 24 years together 30 2 boys 16 18 Dropped bomb end of may 08 Sep July 08 D started Sept 19 HS sweethearts