First off, I don't GET to do that. It's YOUR sitch.
Secondly, while I think things are going VERY well, I would never suggest you adopt the mindset that all is well.
I hope you understand this.
When I said I thought you were clearly rebuilding a marriage rather than busting a divorce, I was asking you to change your focus.
Not that this is in any way a game, but sometimes you play like a loser. You play like there's no chance.
I would just like to see you adopt more of a "almost there, I know it's going to happen" kind of attitude. Seems to me that kind of attitude would make a difference in your sitch.
Sorry for making you think I had declared your divorce busted.
Never intended to suggest that.
Bill
No worries, Bill...I understand, and I also understand that some may read my posts and wonder what I am even doing here, but I know you all get it. I know I can't just assume all is well. It has to be an attitude and a focus change to progress past what we have now.
Last night I got a little reminder that I still have work to do on myself, regardless of how well I think I may be doing.
Long story short....she was out with the girls and her plan to not drink and drive herself home did not quite work out.
Without going into all the details of the evening, let's just say insecure, controlling guy made a surprise visit to the tavern to make sure she got home safe. A buddy of mine was there and was going to drive her home, but that was not good enough for me, and actually peaked my insecurity even more, so I drove out to see what was happening.
Was she pissed? Did I get the "what the f*** are you doing here, checking up on me?"....when she saw me her face lit up and she smiled from ear to ear...glad to see me.
I told her I just wanted to make sure she got home safe, and apologized if she thought I was checking on her.
She told me the thought never crossed her mind and she was glad I came to get her. She apologized for not being more responsible.
My buddy was doing a good deed, and although crazy thoughts ran through my mind and I probably made him feel uncomfortable, I consider him my oldest and dearest friend....just crazy thoughts.
He drove my wife's car home and she came with me. She told me all about her night with the girls and apologized again for causing a fuss and not being able to drive home.
We dropped the car off and drove my friend home. Back at the house she was warm and affectionate...we chatted, kissed, hugged and went to bed....made plans to have a nice quiet evening at home tonight and go to a local beer and wine festival on Sunday.
This afternoon she sent me a text to ask if I wanted her to make chicken wings for tonight, or wait for the game Sunday night.
