Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Saffie and NC,
I still want my marriage to work more than anyhing, but I also know that I cannot and will no longer tolerate what he was doing to me.

I had to get off of here abruptly because I got a phone call. I would like to add more of the conversation. He told me that he saw changes in me that he liked but he was afraid I would go back to my old ways. I said what are those changes. He said I like that you get out much more now. I said yes, you are right that I didn't get out much before I was put being a mother first and as a result our marriage suffered, but the girls are older now and they don't need me as much anymore. He also said we never communicated. I told him he was the one that went straight to the bedroom to watch television everynight when he was home. I told him that the both girls are almost grown now, that this should be our time, but he never gave us a chance. He said I know. He said I always have a million things going through my head. My stomach stays in knots. I told him I could understand that given that he was playing two women. I told him I wish he would share a couple of those million thoughts going through his head. He said what if we got back together and it didn't work? I said think we would need counseling and the secretary would have to go for us to really try. He said I don't know about the counseling. He said I know that there is someone who could do her job just as well. I said do you care about her more than me? He said no, I care about you more, we have been together too long for me to not care about you. I told him that I was giving him his freedom and if he wanted to pursue a relationship with her, this was his chance, that he needed to call his lawyer. He said I'm really tired right now, and I've got to get up at 5:30 am, can we talk about this tomorrow? I said you have said several times you were going to call and you didn't. He said I will call you. I said if I don't hear from you, I will know that you are not willing to accept my requirements and we will get divorced.

Another thing I told him is that if OW is still calling him, maybe he is over her but she isn't over him. I said you both could never go back to having a employer/empoyee relationship. I said an employee does not just call their boss to chat.