You're doing good, so much better than the last time I checked in on you--you're the man with the plan now. I'm rooting for you.
I hear you that you're worried about your kids...not going to tell you that they won't experience any pain if you do divorce, that would be a lie, but your happiness and your ability to co-parent with your wife will minimize their pain a whole hell of a lot.
Also, don't get ahead of yourself until you hear what your W has to say when you confront her. A lot can change in a short amount of time...
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
