Certainly marriages have been brought back from the brink and probably worse situations than mine have been resurrected. That said, my marriage seems ready to breathe it's last.
My wife stayed at the house last night with the kids and I was supposed to go out with my best man. He felt sick, so I went and hung out with him and his family for a couple of hours and then off to the meet new friends at the local bar and grill.
My W just finished in the shower. She is taking S8 to Bass Pro Shop for his birthday and some time together. While she was in the shower, I ran through her cell phone again quickly. If I can interpret what I read, there was recently drama with OM1 and W and now it looks like W is going to ditch OM2 and fully cherish OM1. Now, there is no doubt at all in my mind of her infidelity. None.
This was a little bit of a bittersweet morning. The kids made pancakes and we sat at the table and ate breakfast like a family. Things were cordial and friendly and fun and a complete sham. I am so sad about what the kids will face. Things are going to be fine for me and in some ways better than I've ever known, but, the kids will suffer from this. I don't know that they will suffer more than learning such a poor model of a marriage relationship or being in limbo and not really seeing their mother much, but, that is a familiar dysfunction. The divorce will bring new pain and fear and upset.
It was a little weird reading a text from OM1 telling W to enjoy the pancakes and that he wished she was with him. But, weird is the word, not painful.
This doesn't really change anything. I will still meet with a lawyer next week and plan to confront my wife about things on the 9th. I guess it changes things in this manner. I have no doubts now about her infidelity so I'm not worried about needing to bluff during our conversation. The only real question will be can she admit to what she has been doing. Additionally, while my original plan was to talk to the lawyer and not file for divorce, that I plan to seek full custody of the kids and no maintenance for my wife leads me to believe that it will be in the kids and my best interest to file first and probably after meeting with W. I'm going to play that one by ear and decide based on the conversation with the lawyer.
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