Funny thing is that we are agreeable on everything else.. Every financial detail.. everything.. Crazy..
You're lucky that you agree on the other things. My X and I didn't agree on financials, and he used custody of the kids as his bargaining chip, plus the more time he had with them the lower the CS payment would be. I think he thought that I would agree to whatever he wanted financially rather than go to court over the kids, but I didn't give in, for me it was about the kids, not the money. I knew that I had always been the primary caregiver, I was the one who stayed in the home when he walked away to be with the OW. I didn't want to go to court because the kids would have been brought into it, but I wasn't afraid to go to court, because I knew my casewas strong. In the end we had the same schedule that we had been following from when he moved out, and it cost us thousands of dollars each. Sometimes I get so mad thinking about the money that was wasted in his effort to pay less monthly. At one point he filed for custody claiming I was mentally unstable and requested a psyche evaluation for me....which cost him (actually I bet OW paid for it) $700. What a colossal waste of money!!!!! From a man who will not contribute to his kids college, or establish college accounts for the two younger ones. It is amazing what levels of craziness and selfishness the WAS can exhibit.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
