Hi guys! I called a Hash friend and had a little chat with her while xh was here (shoes off asleep on the sofa). I think he heard the convo because after I got off the phone he got a little p!ssed about a teachers CV he needs that I didn't have time to look for: he usually acts like this with the issue of the Hash. Now I get the pattern.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi Mishka...you're far from stupid! A CV is short for the Latin cirriculum vitae...basically is a resume.
I have been very busy today and what I posted was done from my BB while xh was sleeping on the sofa
Today is the birthday of our friends son so they asked us to go to their house for drinks, pizza and cake. I told xh and he sounded distracted. Turns out he had plans but he said he would cancel them for the evening. He was going to do whatever he needed to do and will pick us up around 7:30pm.
xh had been around almost all day today. He brought me to my interview, then we came back to the apartment, I left around midday to see a client and he stayed here (noticed he had been luing on the bed) and then we met at school and he then brought me to a meeting with another client. He dropped us off around 4.
I have the perfect chance to DB tonight. I get to do a 180 and act the opposite of what he might expect me to. The last time we were with them I could have been nicer to him. Tonight he's going to see who I really am. I also want to give them something to think about.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi! Tonight went well. We had a great time. I was very well behaved and we were very interactive.
He got a couple of texts but didn't even bother to even look at them. Only when we were getting ready to leave did he respond. I was impressed but also surprised at that. You know how the constant sending and receiving was driving me crazy. I think that the less I complained about this then the less he does it. ???
With the nice time tonight I miss him more now.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
What I love about your sitch is just how much time you spend together. You have plenty of opportunities to do 180s.
Yeah I bet you're right that the more you pressure your XH about texting, the more likely he is to do it. Seems like ignoring something takes away its power/interest.
Well done tonight!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Since you all were talking about it, what is "The Secret." ? You get what you focus on?
Read what you said about the texts Jen. Makes sense doesn't it? You ignore bad behavior, reward good behavior. I case you don't know I believe that men are like dogs, very trainable and eager to please. That being said you all seem to like to try and catch guys doing DAM things, what do you find? We do all kinds of DAM things, so stop focusing on it. If I want to find all kinds of things my W beotches about all I have to do is focus on it. Not productive for any of us. Focus on the solutions, making ourselves better, and being better spouses. Hope you all have a great second half of the weekend. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
In case you're checking this thread again, "The Secret" is based on the "Law of Attraction", in other words you get what you focus on, but this means both the positive AND the negative things, so it's important to really focus on positive outcomes.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Jen, I am so happy that things seem to be looking up for you. You did great with H last night and I'm glad the job interview went really well. I wish you luck on a positive outcome.
HUGS!!!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
He was going to do whatever he needed to do and will pick us up around 7:30pm.