H moving out!! Crisis I need help

[Trying2live]

Ok I had someone send me more information on Exposure. I am still hoping to get more but I'll post as it comes.....Read Below....

The benefits of exposure include (and are not limited to):

- Brings the A out in the open
-Destroys the fantasy and secrecy of the A
-Gets the truth out (before the Walk away Spouse can spin it around)
-Rallies up supporters of the marriage
-Rallies up supporters of the Betrayed Spouse who help in innumerable ways through reporting actions of the Walk away Spouse, providing everything from financial, emotional and other types of support to the Betrayed Spouse
-Prevents gossip since gossip relies on information passed behind one's back but is infinitely more unreliable than truth coming from the source
-Brings critical information to the surface (how long has the A been going on, where was he really last weekend etc.)
-Through the above, destabilizes the A, often ending it immediately

Fear of losing a job is real, but it is not because of the exposure, it is because of the affair. Even if the Betrayed Spouse doesn't expose, the affair may be discovered eventually by the employee anyway. If the A is occurring at work, hence threatening job security, either the Walk away Spouse or the OP must leave the job anyway if the marriage is going to have any chance whatsoever. So yes, there could be potential financial hardship (due to the affair, not the exposure), but that weighs against DEFINITE marital breakdown.