Jill,

Daughters are that way with their fathers. But they know the truth and they still love their mom. So don't worry about that. No matter what, your daughter is her mom's daughter. Let her do what she needs to do. Eventually, you will have flowers on her birthday, a comrade in arms for all other things, and a confidante when her dad lets her down.

It's tough to go through her stupid dad's stuff. Smile through the anger. If you allow her to love her dad, she will love you that much more. I promise this to be true. I actually lived this and have this in my life. Eventually, our girls understand this better than if we actually say it to them. We have to allow them to understand it for themselves. That's how we girls are.